Are you someone who loses a sense of yourself when you are in a love relationship? Do you and your lover share the same home merely as roommates without romance or connection? Or do you go back and forth between the two? Many of us were not taught how boundaries and love go together. We either collapse ourselves into our partner or we put up barriers to maintain our separate identity. It doesn't have to be one or the other. It is possible to completely open your heart to your lover while retaining your individuality.

• Recognize the differences between barriers and boundaries
• Identify classic ways we either "collapse into" or distance
  ourselves from our partner
  
• Create a "relationship vision" based on a healthy
  sense of boundaries